Self care starts with body acceptance and how you perceive your body on a daily basis. Every moment of every day. What are you saying to yourself?
Spend some time and really listen, question it to see where it’s at. Is it giving you some negative feedback and does it serve you?
If you are not accepting yourself fully now, when are you going to?
In five years, in ten years, in a year from now, in six months, when you can fit into those jeans?
It can make you feel uncomfortable. It may be quite painful.
Consider what are you judging yourself on, what standards, what image of perfection do you hold for yourself?
We all have it, we think if this was a little bit trimmer, a bit flatter, if those were a little bit bigger, if they were longer, there wasn’t that stretch mark or cellulite, the list is endless.
The present moment
Essentially being alright with how you are now, how you look in this moment here is the only thing that matters. Not tomorrow, not next week, next year, it’s now and bringing yourself and joy into now.
That’s why meditation is about the breath, breath is now, it’s present.
Decide to make a change.
In this moment how do you feel about yourself and does that need to change?
Clear your social media
Surround yourself with positivity, with upbeat images, especially on social media, on Instagram, and Facebook. Get rid of those accounts with before and after pics, especially post natal ones.
Filters are on everything. I have worked as a designer, I know what Photoshop can do. And trust me the pictures that we see in magazines, even on the television and movies are not real. They’re are not.
I asked nearly 300 women on a scale of 1 – 10 (10 fully accepting your body) Shockingly, 10% of them hate themselves, 10% are sitting at 1 = They hate their body.
Find the positivity you need.
There are a lot of incredible women are leading the way when it comes to positive body image.
Ask yourself, if you are not accepting yourself right now, as you physically feel, as you look with your lumps and your bumps, and your stretch marks, and all those lovely things about you, when do you plan to do that?
What we say to our children
As a parent we also need to consider that our dialogue with ourselves can influence our children. They’re affected by seeing and hearing their parents talk, discuss and reactions to food, eating, weight and physical attributes of others and themselves.
The research is shocking, and reveals that at as young as three years old children are forming their self image, and how they may feel about things that are not perceived as beautiful or ideal. And they are fully aware.
As a parent, I think it’s really important that we change that narrative, and we consider it our responsibility because they are surrounded with media, adverts, mannequins in shops, pictures of what the media perceives as ideal = Thin.
Next time you see a child, consider complementing them about a non physical feature like how kind they are, or an emotional response to something so they do not judge themselves solely on looks.
I have done this practice a lot with my own child.
When I compliment her, it’s very much about her kindness and her generosity, and how creative she is, and how strong she is and how proud I am of her,.
It might surprise you, when you think that you’re non bias and you try your best to be, open to everybody, everybody’s shapes,looks, skin color, all of these things, sometimes we’re not, and we don’t realise that. The media influence runs deep.
We only have now, we only have today, this moment.